Perhaps the most common trigger is the biological refractory period. For the duration of the arousal, the cuckold is in a "sub-space" where degradation feels good. The moment he orgasms (often while masturbating in the corner), the chemicals shift. floods the system with oxytocin and prolactin, killing the libido instantly. Suddenly, the man is no longer a horny cuckold; he is a shamed husband watching a stranger rail his wife. This switch from 100 to 0 in a millisecond is the classic "rage quit" moment. He will stand up in the middle of the act, pull his pants up, and walk out the front door without a word. The cognitive dissonance is so violent that his only coping mechanism is total abandonment of the scenario.